Perhaps you’ve had the experience of meeting someone new and then watching as one crisis after another befalls you. A pattern of negative events that closely follows a specific person coming into your life may leave you wondering if this individual brought bad luck to you.
This is particularly true if you notice that the individual seems to suffer from their own run of chronic bad luck. You may jump to the conclusion that this person is cursed with bad luck, and worse, that their bad luck is rubbing off on you.
But is this accurate? Can someone else really cause bad luck to another person? Let us see..
Cultural Beliefs on Bad Luck Coming from Individuals
Beliefs about curses and bad luck abound in various cultures. It’s no wonder most people will believe that negative events are attributed to bad luck coming from people in your life.
While beliefs about good and bad luck are universal, there are dramatic variations from one culture to another when it comes to what exactly causes good or bad luck. In most cases, periods of good or bad luck are attributed to either your actions, such as stepping on a crack or wearing shoes into the house after attending a funeral.
But beliefs about specific people bringing bad luck serve a unique function and appear to be less widespread. This may be because of the potential negative ramifications of singling out individuals as “unlucky.” Consider for example the rampant hysteria that followed accusations of witchcraft at various points in history in cultures worldwide.
Perhaps, as social beings, most people instinctively understand that there is danger in ascribing bad luck to others or making others the target of fear. But this doesn’t mean that beliefs in bad luck are never attributed to other people.
In some cases, this belief is fueled by a lack of understanding of toxic relationship dynamics. For example, it’s easier to presume a friend or partner has been a source of bad luck rather than taking a closer look at issues of responsibility and boundaries in the relationship.
In many cultures, belief in curses and bad luck are very real. From India to Greece, and Italy, belief in the “evil eye” prompts people to use rituals to protect themselves from this form of transmitting bad luck or curses. People also will sometimes pay exorbitant prices for rituals to relieve themselves or their families and loved ones of “bad luck” or “curses.”
But the belief in bad luck coming from someone doesn’t mean this is actually what is occurring. There can be many reasons that it would seem someone is unlucky, and no real way to prove the presence of bad luck.
Toxic People and Belief in Bad Luck
If you feel like you’ve had nothing but bad luck since a specific person came into your life, it may be time to examine whether the relationship is actually toxic. The person may have negative energy or toxic behaviors that also bring chaos into both of your lives.
Even well-intending people who are constantly in crisis may seem to perpetuate chaos. This chaos can easily extend to impact people around them. This doesn’t mean they are “unlucky.” It only means that this person is caught in a pattern of negativity and possible toxic beliefs and behavior that may make it look like a storm cloud is following them.
Often, people in this situation need to step back and look at how they can take responsibility for making changes in their lives. They may need to change their boundaries or examine their thinking. If they are allowing negative or distorted beliefs to keep them trapped in chaotic situations, then it is very likely their problems will quickly become problems for people closest to them.
Other Explanations for “Unlucky” People
Not every person who is surrounded by chaos is toxic, but this also doesn’t mean they are “unlucky” or bringing bad luck into your life. Other explanations for what may appear on the surface to be bad luck can be more psychological than spiritual.
While chaotic energy can impact your spiritual energy, there are also examples of people who seem to be unlucky but in truth are not dealing with the true source of their problems. For example, if someone is an addict, they may continually make decisions that bring more crisis and chaos into their lives because of their habit.
They may seem unlucky because they continually end up in bad situations, yet this has nothing to do with luck and everything to do with patterns of self-destructive behavior. And this can seem to spread to others who are impacted by the individual’s behavior.
Sometimes, what appears to be “bad luck” can also be the result of situations beyond an individual’s control. If, for example, someone who experiences one tragedy, such as an accident, may seem to be unlucky if the accident leads to other negative experiences such as loss of a job and then poverty. But this has more to do with a lack of social support and safety nets than an individual’s luck.
Though someone going through a crisis may experience a great deal of worrying, and the worrying can seem contagious, it is not bad luck that is to blame. You may feel as if you are picking up on their energy but it is more likely that you are attuned to the tension they are experiencing, which is not a matter of them bringing bad luck into your life.
However, if it seems like a relationship brings nothing but bad news, there may be an energetic, psychological, and social explanation. It may be an important time to look at your boundaries. If you are not sticking up for yourself in the relationship or if you are continuing to make excuses for someone who appears to always be in trouble, you may end up getting drawn into drama that you’re better off avoiding. This can look like a run of bad luck.
Conclusion
While various beliefs and superstitions attribute bad luck to people and situations, more often than not what passes for bad luck has another explanation. It can be dangerous to attribute bad luck to specific people as this can become the basis for scapegoating others.
Yet if you feel like someone in your life is surrounded by chaos and negativity, this can have an impact on your own mind and energy after a while. Boundaries can be important, and you may have to limit your interaction with this person. Yet this doesn’t mean they have brought bad luck into your life.
Angela Kaufman is a Certified Intuitive Consultant, Psychic Medium, Intuitive Empowerment, Life Coach and an LCSW. She is an amazon published author and was Featured on several shows like Discovery Channel’s A Haunting, Echoes from the Past (2007) 14 Degrees: A Paranormal Documentary, Tune In to Wellness Today with LisaMarie Tersigni, and Empowering Entrepreneurs with Melissa Carter as well as numerous radio interviews. She is the author of Queen Up! Reclaim Your Crown When Life Knocks You Down - Unleash the Power of Your Inner Tarot Queen and also co-authored three books on metaphysical spirituality (Sacred Objects, Sacred Space; Everyday Tools for the Modern Day Witch | Wicca What's the Real Deal? Breaking Through the Misconceptions | The Esoteric Dream Book; Mastering the Magickal Symbolism of the Subconscious Mind). Angela regularly conducts workshops, the Inner Queen coaching program and loves writing articles, that blend social criticism with spirituality.