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Why do Girls wear Chokers? Here are the 10 Psychological Reasons Behind it

Chokers are one of the craziest trend which started quite recently.

Whether it is a prom, a marriage, a date or even a simple meet-up, girls nowadays are wearing out a bright shiny choker around their necks.

Of course, chokers look like they are choking up one’s neck, but this did not stop it from becoming a huge trend and mania for girls. And with this huge craze for chokers, there also came a number of rude trolls and controversies on girls wearing them.

In fact, there are people out there who believe that wearing a choker necklace is a representation of a woman’s sexual submissiveness. Some even believe that women who wear chokers are true sl*ts and continuously sl*t-shame them with their jokes.

As many already know it, these logic-less conclusions are completely a bull-shit. Yes, a bull-shit and believe me wearing a choker is no way related to a woman’s sexual views.

So, Then why do girls actually wear the chokers?

Have you ever wondered why girls wear them to every occassion possible? Do you know the deep psychological reasons behind many women wearing the choker necklace, nowadays? Is it just a fashion trend? Or is there some hidden meaning behind it?

Don’t worry, Today, you are going to learn some fantastic insights into the deep psychological reasons behind girls wearing the chokers.

Enjoy this interesting piece of knowledge!

10 Psychological Reasons why Girls actually wear Chokers:

Why do Girls wear Chokers its meaning

1. Woman’s instinct for perfection and style:

Not just women but every human being is a unique creature of this universe. One needs to remember that there are some biological demands that your psyche is bound to fulfill. One among them is a desire for perfection.

It is found out that a feeling of perfection is always triggered when a woman is aware that she has a trendy and latest kind of accessory around her neck.

Many women even believe that wearing a choker necklace can nicely match their wearing dress, thus giving them a complete and perfect look. Thus a woman’s instinct for perfection can unknowingly push her to wear a choker for any occasion she attends.

2. Survival with respect to trend:

You agree with the fact that when you’re going to a disco party, you will not wear your school uniform. In fact, you just want to go with the flow of the party and likes to wear the clothes/jewelry that matches with everyone.

So, as wearing chokers is a current trend, most of the women feel completely left out when they don’t keep up with the trend. Thus they don’t want to get behind and thus become a part of following the trend. Thus to prevent the threat of being bullied and mocked for not having a pair of chokers, woman’s survival kit calls for buying it and wearing it as soon as possible.

3. Catching the attention of people:

Deep inside everyone, is a craving for praise and appreciation. Just like that, women have to move in a society where the accessories they choose and wear remain constantly in the eyes of others.

As neck is a more visible area, wearing chokers enable girls to catch the attention of several people in a single glimpse. This is what all girls want – to be seen and be in limelight!

4. It can also be a unconscious way of showing fearlessness:

You store desires, dreams, and fears that are far away from your consciousness. These deep desires sometimes motivate you to show the world that you are fearless, powerful and a better person.

As wearing chokers is oddly perceived by some people, women subconsciously feel that – by wearing chokers they are going against the real odds of the world and are being courageous woman of the society. Thus in some cases, insecurities too can drive a woman to wear chokers and thus fulfill her desire of being a fearless woman.

5. Feminine peer relations:

Sometimes answers to biggest questions are very plain and simple. Thus one such sweet and short explanation of women wearing chokers is due to the influence of their fellow female peers

All those who surround a girl can become the cause of what she buys and what she does. So, if a girl’s feminine peers are getting a choker for themselves, then it is likely that the girl would soon get a choker for herself. too.

6. Attachment to Doll-like ornaments:

According to the psychoanalytic theory of psychology, girls are reported to pick more dependency toys i.e. dolls than boys.

Thus with a choker around a girl’s neck (which is almost like a simple round toy) she is more likely to feel secure and safe at a sub-conscious level.

7. A way of Combating anxiety smartly:

Ever heard of beauty hacks? I bet you are using one of them daily. For example, many women apply a bright lip-gloss shade or shinning eye shadow just to uplift the low mood on a Monday.

Similarly chokers also act as a special hack for a woman’s anxiety.

Girls play with their chokers and that seems sensual. No one can find out that fondling with choker is a sign of anxiousness. This clearly gives confidence to girls that they can manage in distress.

So sometimes, a choker can be in a girl’s preference list, because it might be a big day for her and she just wants to manage her anxiety in a smarter way.

8. Role identification:

You identify yourself with famous celebrities and sometimes with role models of your family.

As nowadays, many top models, pop singers, and actresses are flaunting their necks with a choker, it is likely that many women who see them also go ahead and get a pair of chokers for themselves too. Doing so, they fantasize and try to identify themselves with their favorite stars.

9. Risk taking and curiosity can be a trigger too:

You take risks when you are interested in knowing something new or learning a new experience. Risk-taking/curiosity is one of the actual reasons that trigger girls to stimulate their mind through this choker wearing fashion.

Chokers are a new style of jewelry that is still unique in many cultures. Added choker display on neck is itself a risk to face all the comments that many girls receive after wearing them. Thus this curiosity about how people respond to them, the risk of getting trolled, these all create a different kind of excitement in some women thus pushing them to wear a choker again and again.

10. Women believe chokers accentuate the attractiveness of their Neck:

Do you know some women wear chokers just to accentuate and show up their long necks?

Yes, this is true. Women who especially have long slender necks feel that having a choker necklace makes their neck’s shape even more beautiful and attractive.


Remember.. The reason behind why a particular girl wear chokers can be completely different from the reason why another girl wears it. Sometimes it can be due to the above said psychological reasons and sometimes it can be even without any reason.

So, whatever, wearing a choker is now a viral trend and many women even love wearing it. So, Let us just stop over-thinking and calmly accept the new fashion trend.

Nazish Idrees Chaudhary is a psychologist who currently works at Dr. Khalid Clinic, Lahore. She completed her Master of philosophy, clinical psychology from the University of central Punjab and worked as a Sr. Consultant Clinical Psychologist and Psychotherapist at Lahore psychiatry clinic. She also has a master's degree in HDFS-Human Development and Family Studies and even worked as a lecturer and consultant. Her biggest hobbies include Astrology, Tarot reading and loves sharing her immense knowledge to people.

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